We are women who have persevered with living with the "Good ol' boys club" and girls are NOT allowed. We fight in court systems to keep our children. We have been chastised in court that we did not have legal counsel due to lack of income. Most of us have been abused by years from our ex-boyfriends and husbands. Only to find our abusers to use the family court system as a 'guise' to stalk us.
We are no longer going to keep quiet, no longer will we be complacent, no longer will we be abused by the government, social workers, guardian ad litems, family court commissioners, circuit court judges.
Under the list of things your batterer will say to you if you leave him
or try to, #2 is "I'll tell the judge you're a bad mother; you'll lose
custody of the kids." I used to think that was a threat.....5 months
later I learned otherwise, and I'm not alone. There are literally
thousands of mothers losing custody to their ex-abusers. NOT the "good"
fathers who share EQUALLY parenting costs or cares. It's the dad's that
want the mother out of their child's life to "pay her back" for leaving
him. It's the abusive drunk ones who drink and drive with their kids,
threaten their kids they will take away toys or pets. OH....and the #1
on the list of things your batterer will say to you is "If I can't have
you, NO ONE WILL". Thankfully, I believed that one.
We started this organization this year 2008 after meeting several mothers and hearing of their heartache and horrors.
links:
www.endabuse.org
www.WomensLaw.org
www.thelizlibrary.org
www.1220wkrs.com
www.cbsnews.com
http://www.rrainbowhouse.com
http://www.lundybancroft.com
http://angelfury.org/
http://www.centerforjudicialexcellence.org/
One Mothers Story...
My ex-abuser forged my signature on a court document to gain joint custody. He also had two DUI convictions in less than a year, one in which our child was a passenger. The family court commissioner kept granting more and more custody.
